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Joan Low of the digital mental wellness platform Thoughtfull shares insights on ways to support others who are experiencing poor mental health

Mental health is an essential aspect of our overall health and well-being—and fundamentally a human right. Maintaining good mental health enables us to connect, function, cope and flourish.

The state of mental health in Asia is intricate and varied, with notable differences from one country and culture to another. Cultural, social and economic factors significantly shape the perception and approach to the matter in the region.

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A 2023 study by insurance broker Aon and health technology company Telus Health found that four out of five employees in Asia are at high risk of experiencing poor mental health. This could manifest as low work productivity, anxiety and depression. Yet the World Health Organization (WHO) finds that mental health systems in the region and globally face significant gaps and imbalances in information and research, governance, resources and services. 

Hoping to plug some of these holes in Malaysia is ThoughtFull, a digital mental health startup founded by Gen.T honouree Joan Low.

A former analyst and associate banker at JP Morgan, Low left the finance industry to pursue her passion for helping others manage their mental and emotional well-being. Through its app and non-app-based solutions, her company hopes to make mental healthcare accessible and affordable for all and normalise the idea of seeking professional help and treatment.

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Joan Low founded ThoughtFull, which runs the subscription-based ThoughtFull Chat that links users with certified mental health professionals, providing daily bite-sized coaching from qualified counsellors and psychologists as well as mood-trackers, journaling and more curated tools and content (Photo: Imran Sulaiman/Tatler Malaysia)
Above Joan Low founded ThoughtFull, which runs the subscription-based ThoughtFull Chat that links users with certified mental health professionals, providing daily bite-sized coaching from qualified counsellors and psychologists as well as mood-trackers, journaling and more curated tools and content (Photo: Imran Sulaiman/Tatler Malaysia)

How can our mental health affect our ability to communicate effectively?

Joan Low (JL): Communication is a key skill that helps us connect, share and express ourselves, but some of us may face communication challenges due to mental health issues like anxiety or depression.

Anxiety can make people fearful or nervous, affecting their focus and calmness. Depression can make people feel sad and uninterested, affecting their energy and motivation. These conditions can vary in how they affect each person; some may cope better than others.

Communication is not only about words but also about personality, culture, context and emotion. So we should be kind and supportive of those who struggle with mental health and communication issues.

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How can we recognise the signs and symptoms of poor mental health in ourselves or others?

JL: Pay attention to your or the person sharing their thoughts, feelings and behaviours, and try to take notice of any changes that could indicate a problem. For example, we may feel more anxious, sad or irritable than usual or have trouble sleeping, concentrating or making decisions. We may also withdraw from social activities or have difficulty coping with stress.

If we notice any of these changes, we must take steps to care for ourselves. This could be talking to a trusted friend or family member, seeking professional help or making lifestyle changes such as regular exercise, eating a healthy diet and getting enough sleep.

Our mental health can affect our physical health. We might experience headaches, muscle tension or sleep problems that won’t go away. These symptoms are our body’s way of telling us something is wrong.

What are your tips for communicating with someone going through a difficult time?

JL: First, listen actively to what they say without interrupting or getting distracted. You can show that you are paying attention by nodding, maintaining eye contact and making appropriate sounds or gestures.

Second, use supportive and empathetic language, not judgmental or critical words. You can acknowledge their feelings, validate their experiences and express your concern and care for them.

Third, respect their boundaries and privacy. Do not pressure them to share more than they are comfortable with or make assumptions about their situation. Let them decide how much and when they want to talk.

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Fourth, ask them how you can best support them. Different people will need different types of help, and this may include listening, offering advice, helping with tasks or simply being there for them. Respect their wishes and preferences. Do not impose your solutions or expectations on them.

Fifth, be consistent and reliable in your support. Check-in on them regularly and show interest in their well-being and progress. Do not make promises you cannot keep or disappear when they need you the most.

How can we overcome any communication barriers between us and someone who needs help?

JL: One way is to learn more about their condition. This helps you better understand their feelings and actions. It also shows them that you care and empathise with them. You will then be able to communicate more effectively with them using the appropriate words and tone.

Another way is to prioritise care for yourself. You must be patient with both yourself and the person because mental health recovery can be challenging and unpredictable. You need to support them, but not at the expense of your own well-being. Set healthy boundaries and respect your own limits and needs.

Finally, seek support yourself. Talk to friends, family or colleagues who can help you cope with the stress and emotions that may arise from supporting someone with a mental health issue. Seeking out professional support networks, such as therapists or counsellors, who offer guidance and advice can also be beneficial. 

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What are the tools or resources available for those who want to improve their mental health or are caring for someone with mental health issues?

JL: There are many options, including our ThoughtFullChat. The app connects you with professional help and self-guided resources. You can take a free emotional health assessment, learn about various mental health topics and access support groups online or in person.

You can also connect with qualified professionals, monitor your emotional well-being and explore various mental health topics via the app. Users can join online or offline support groups that match their needs and preferences. These groups provide a comfortable environment for caregivers to exchange stories and get emotional support.

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